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someone is trying to control me
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Control Issues
create
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I’m trying to control someone else
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(fear of the consequences to me)
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Fear & Anxiety
which leads to anger
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(fear of the consequences of their actions)
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At this point the fear and anxiety are there,
what can I try do to head off anger?
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Communicate with "I" statements
"I feel ___ when ___ happens to me and I need ______"
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Anger
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Recognize and accept the fact that I
can not control anyone but myself.
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At this point the anger is here, what can I chose to do about it?
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Implosive choices
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Assertive choice
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Explosive choices
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respectfully set your boundaries
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avoidance, withdrawing, manipulation,
resentment, depression, and in
the extreme case suicide
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When ___________ happens
I feel ____________ and
I will ____________ to prevent it.
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insulting, shouting, cursing,
pushing, hitting, rage and in
the extreme case homicide
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